When You Meet Someone Who Checks Every Box, Except…

Nik Love, Quora, Relationships

Someone once asked me: “I met this girl who ticks off every box on my list—except she’s slept with 16 guys and cheated. Do I just look past it?”

Knowing nothing else about the pair of them, I tried to gather the facts. Here’s my response:

  1. She likes to change what ‘husband-material’ her sweater’s made of with a frequency that’s somewhere between fresh underwear and an oil change.

    If she’s 20 and started dating at 15, that’s the equivalent of a new guy every 4 months. I don’t know how old she is. You do the math.
  2. She’s willing to break whatever ethical code she previously agreed upon with her partner to make sure that man-flow is kept up at all times.
  3. You, on the other hand, need a girl to comply with some arbitrary checklist to even consider dating her.

Of course we know too little to give good advice, but so far, it doesn’t exactly sound like a match made in heaven.

She’s the Road Runner, you’re the Coyote. By the time you’ve made up your mind, she’ll have moved on. I think this time, it’s your turn to run.

PS: Don’t bother packing the checklist.

Nik

Niklas Göke writes for dreamers, doers, and unbroken optimists. A self-taught writer with more than a decade of experience, Nik has published over 2,000 articles. His work has attracted tens of millions of readers and been featured in places like Business Insider, CNBC, Lifehacker, and many others. Nik has self-published 2 books thus far, most recently 2-Minute Pep Talks. Outside of his day job and daily blog, Nik loves reading, video games, and pizza, which he eats plenty a slice of in Munich, Germany, where he resides.